Taboo, Can a friend also be your lover?

Dear Taboo,

Moi feels that you need to give it more time before you make a decision as big as this.  First you need to let your friendship develop more, secondly, you need to let “him” figure out what is happening with this other guy, and as hard as it is, just be his friend.  YOU don’t want to be the rebound.  Or cause any conflict for him or anymore for yourself.

Life is never easy, and nor is love.  Love is brilliant and messy.  It sneaks up on us, takes over and sometimes with surrender, and sometimes it is dangerous for us to do so.

Ask yourself, what does your life, your soul need more…. A real genuine friend, or a lover?

And yes, I do feel that your friend can also be your lover.  Your lover should be your best friend, have your back, walk beside you, make you laugh, cry with you, listen, care, and then some…

Or you can tell him now, which personally I think is premature.  Sometimes in life we need to let the cards fall where they will.

Enjoy it for what it is as this moment.  He might very well be feeling the same about you?  And his other struggle is that he just started “seeing” someone.

Hang tight.  Be his friend first and foremost.

Divine Man