Sandy- A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime!

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

Moi has a very dear friend, someone that I hold very close to my heart. We met in 2003, when Moi entered beauty college. At first I thought she was going to be a mean educator, someone I might buck horns with. She stands about 5'4, with dark chocolate colored hair, always perfectly in place, reddish lipstick, she is a cross between Gladys Presley and Doris Roberts(Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond) and a pistol she is. She has shared with me many of life lessons, pain, loss, victory, inspiration, humor beyond humor, and love. She is and always has been my mentor, not just in the classroom, but in life as well.

When Moi was in beauty college I was discovering who I was, what I wanted and where I wanted to go. Moi was also a prankster along side my sidekick Lisa. One day she and Moi decided we could not take "Perking 101" any longer, we needed to de-stress. So we took a box of perm end papers, a pail of cholesterol and proceeded to go out back to "Sandy" SUV and put the end papers in her SUV on her antenna, under her wiper blades, and a pile of the cholesterol on the ground right where she would step to get in! The next day she came in and told the story of the 1,000's of perm end papers that flew in and out of her SUV as she flew down the high-way. Her telling of the story was full of humor, love and non stop laughter from all in the room. Another time Lisa and I decided to microwave a chocolate nut candy bar and smear it all over the toilet seat in the women’s restroom at the school. We even had it on the floor, and the wall. We put perm end papers all over it. We had to leave our signature mark! We then told "Sandy" that someone had shit all over and she needed to clean it up. She went in with her arm covering her nose and screamed and ran out! She said "someone blew shit all over the dam toilet, they freaking exploded!" Lisa and stood there trying to maintain a normal expression on our faces, but it was too much, we needed to release the laughter from within us!

One of the classes at school wanted to have a surprise birthday party for "Sandy" and so they asked Moi if I would make my famous meatballas and noodles! Naturally I said YES! So that night Moi made 95 meatballas, a gallon of homemade marinara sauce, and 5 boxes of noodles! She was so surprised and touched that I think she had a droplet or water that day trickling down her check!

A few years later I found myself working with her, my mentor and dear friend. Everyday was an event with her, a funny, over the top event. Once a week we would get McDonald’s for breakfast, she always ordered the #12 with a diet coke, no ice. Her and I both love Mayo, we would eat Mayo sandwiches, discuss Days Of Our Lives and snap our gum. Sandy has had her share of pain and struggle, but she has always come out stronger and truer to herself and those she loves.

Sandy is a friend for a Reason, Season and a Lifetime! My life is blessed because of her, I am a better person because we met, and I can wrap a perm perfectly because of her!



I Love You Sandy!